I have a confession to make, I used to be that person that sleeps until the last minute in the morning and never ever bothered to watch sunrise.

Last year for the first time in a long time, I accidentally watched sunrise from my hotel in Bangkok due to the time difference. Since then I watched a few more sunrises because I’ve been making a consistent effort to get up early everyday. Each sunrise is uniquely stunning and so different from the other, but that sunrise during one of these days I stayed in Broadbeach recently is the most spectacular and remarkable so far.

The world surrounding me looked incredibly stunning before the sun came out over the horizon. Here’s a snapshot from my balcony (27th floor):

🌅😍 #whoneedsfilters 27th floor. Before sunrise.

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Downstairs on the beach, it was so surreal. Words couldn’t describe the beauty I’ve seen and felt. Totally speechless, I just kept staring and snapped more photos to remember this magical moment.

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Coolangatta (the southernmost suburb of city of Gold Coast, QLD Australia), Wagga Wagga (a regional city in NSW Australia) – don’t you like the sounds of those names?

Though I’ve heard of lots of good things about Coolangatta, I never had any desire to go and check it out until earlier this month. Coolangatta belongs to the Gold Coast city and has the reputation of the being the coolest end of Gold Coast. So while we were in Gold Coast area, I thought why not go and see it finally? It was only 30 minutes’ drive from Broadbeach, where we stayed anyway.

Gold Coast is so different from Sydney, the temperature difference during a day is much smaller; the atmosphere is much, much more relaxed and people a lot friendlier. No wonder so many people like Coolangatta. What’s not to like? We stayed for the whole afternoon and chilled on the beach to watch the entire period of sunset. How I loved the time spent on the beach! It’s so amazing how many colours the sky could turn in a matter of a couple of hours!

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In my younger years, I wouldn’t consider a holiday as such if it doesn’t involve a 3 weeks+ overseas trip. How time has changed me:).

Not only the place I went for a holiday recently is within Australia, it is also somewhere I’ve been before! Back in 2012 I visited Broadbeach in Gold Coast for the first time for 4 days and really loved it there. This time, we went for 8 days but instead of flying there and mainly staying in broadbeach, we drove all the way up. During the 8 days, I explored many other beautiful places in Gold Coast region, took a day trip to Brisbane, another day trip to Noosa Heads, revisited all the major shopping centres and of course, spend a lot time soaking up the sun on the those endless stretch of white sandy beaches.

Last time I didn’t post any pictures for my trip to Broadbeach, so here are some photos from Broadbeach this time.

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If you are a keen and frequent traveller, you will know that there are so many benefits to be had from it. It’s not just the mind that travel broadens, but almost every aspect of your life. The more you do it, the more you will feel those benefits, and the more you’ll want to travel. It is easy to see how people become so addicted to it, but is it possible that you are not currently getting the most out of your travels? Could you make your holidays even more interesting than they currently are?

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Get Off The Beaten Track

Most people like their travelling to be as easy as possible. That’s fair enough; we all know how stressful it can be when things go wrong in a strange country where you can’t speak the language and you don’t know anyone. But if you want your travelling to be a little more interesting, then you might find it beneficial to get off the beaten track once in a while. This means not having such an easy time of it, sure – but it will also result in a much rawer and much richer experience throughout. Go to the places that nobody goes, see the things that nobody sees, and you will feel much more satisfied.

Fly In Style

There are many ways to get around when you are travelling, but at some point or another it is likely that flight is going to be your mode of transport. When you do have to fly, you might feel that this is one of the least interesting aspects of the whole trip. But that perspective is only really possible if you are doing flying wrong. As it happens, you don’t have to be mega rich to fly privately, and going private is likely to completely change the way you think about flying itself. If you want your flying to be more interesting, consider taking a private jet if possible! You might be amazed at what a difference it really can make.

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Meet People

Travel is not just about the places that you visit, but the people who are there. If you want to make the most of your travels, then you should make a special effort to meet as many people as you possibly can. This can be the locals of your chosen destinations, or it can be fellow travellers – of the latter group, you might be surprised at how many times you come across the same people again and again. Getting to know people will help you if you feel lonely, too – a common curse of the frequent traveller.

Visit Varied Cultures

There are all sorts of places in the world, and you should make an effort to vary the kinds of places you visit when you travel. This is the single most powerful way of making your travels significantly more interesting and fascinating, so bear that in mind next time you are about to get back on the road.

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Is there a difference between a traveller and a tourist?

There might be. Let’s make the definitions pretty simple:

  • A tourist is someone who goes abroad for a holiday. They want to relax and enjoy themselves and, sure, see a different way of life, but it’s not the priority. For them, the priority is to get away from their life back home and enjoy some R&R time.
  • A traveller is someone for whom the traditional reasons for a holiday are not important. They focus primarily on the experience, seeing new things, tasting interesting cuisines. For them, that’s the point of a holiday – sitting around doing nothing, indulging in the latest beach reads, is not something that excites them.

Let’s be clear: neither one of these is the ‘right’ way to experience the world. We’re all different, so we require different things from our time spent abroad. However, understanding which category you fit into can really help you when it comes to choosing your next jaunt abroad.

Travellers Will Love…

traveller or touristIt’s not just about the destination for travellers. Given their intrigue for seeing the world and experiencing the entirety of a new place, it’s worth making the journey as much a part of the holiday as getting to an end destination.

For that reason, touring holidays are a great idea – especially ones a traveller controls so they can stop and investigate something interesting if it catches their eye. This could mean a driving holiday, camping wherever possible, as you chart your own course and document your experiences along the way.

Or if camping isn’t for you, then you could consider a caravan. Caravans tend to get a bad rap in popular culture, dismissed as annoyances that hold up traffic, and as inconveniences for travellers. Caravanning, some sections of society will say, means that you’ll spend more time on caravan repairs than you will actually seeing anything.

This isn’t true; caravan holidays are what you make of them. It’s also convenient to have somewhere warm and dry to sleep! So be open-minded if you’re a traveller; you can pretty much pick any destination, so long as you’re able to explore it.

Tourists Will Love…

maldives-travelFor a tourist, it’s all about convenience. That means the idea of the classic package holiday should appeal, as you can have everything taken care of for you. You don’t need to worry about learning the language or finding your own sites; you can let others do the hard work and you enjoy the product of their research. There’s a real charm to following a pre-mapped course, which you know is going to return you safely to your hotel for a good night’s sleep.

Destinations that work well for tourists are usually away from the bustle of a city, but near enough a major city for a day trip if you fancy upping the pace for a short while. For the full tourist experience, look for a hotel that is going to provide some of your meals and a cleaning service – it’s surprisingly inexpensive if you manage to hunt down a good deal.

Importantly, try and keep your journey swift and efficient – for a tourist, it’s all about getting there so the good times can roll.

 

When you go travelling, you want to make the most of your experience. Sometimes, you have a once in a lifetime experience to see somewhere new, and you don’t want to waste it. But when you travel, you can sometimes feel like you’re expected to do things a certain way. Maybe you’re travelling with a group who want to do certain things, or you just have an image of what travel is supposed to look like. However, if you’re not one to follow the crowd, you should travel in your own way. There are a few ways you can take control of your travels and plan something that suits you.

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Go It Alone

If you want to do things your way, you should try travelling alone. Even if you’re in a long-term relationship, you can take off on your own if you want to. And you shouldn’t feel like you have to take friends with you either. There are several ways to enjoy singles vacations, from joining a group tour to simply going off on your own. If you decide to go on a tour, you won’t have complete freedom, but you might enjoy not having to cater to friends or family. It’s often a lot easier to disagree with someone you’ve just met than with a friend, and it’s easier to go off on your own if you want to.

Consider Your Likes and Dislikes

If you want to plan the perfect trip, you should think about what you like and what you don’t like. This might seem like a no-brainer, but too often people decide on what to do on their travels based on what other people do. They see things that are supposedly meant to be on their bucket list, but which they might realize they wouldn’t actually enjoy if they thought about it for a bit. If sitting still and doing nothing isn’t for you, don’t go on a poolside vacation. If you don’t like heat, don’t feel like you should have to go on summer vacations just because everyone else does.

Take Breaks

When you’re travelling, it can benefit you to take a break now and then. People often think that they need to be doing something constantly when they travel. But there’s no harm in having a break and not doing much for a day or so. Taking things slowly gives you a chance to catch your breath, process what you’ve seen and done so far, and plan your next moves.

Know Your Comfort Level

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Sometimes, you can find yourself pushed into something you’re not sure you want to do. Travelling is partly about stepping outside of your comfort zone, but sometimes you can end up making yourself do something you’re really not comfortable with. Travel should be all about enjoying yourself, so being aware of your comfort level is important. Trying new things is good, but be careful not to push yourself too far.
If you want to travel your way, take control of your experiences. Get to do what you want!

2017-May to do listIt feels like another month has slipped through our figures so quickly but at least April for me is definitely more productive than March. After the post of April To Do List, I’m going to carry on the tradition to make a brief May To Do List. So here it goes:

Celebrate the little pleasures in life.

Talking about sand, I’m here on the endless stretch of soft, white sandy beaches in Gold Coast, QLD. I’m enjoying every moment of my holiday here, breathing in the fresh air and soaking up the warm sun. In my youthful years, I was ungrateful complainer. A get away from Sydney to Gold Coast won’t count as a holiday because it’s not a big overseas trip for longer than 3 weeks. Oh how I took life for granted just like that.

Now I’d stop for a minute and remind myself that there are so many little pleasures in life that deserve to be celebrated. I’m so grateful right now – grateful for the ocean view suite I’m staying in; grateful for the big, sturdy, comfortable bed I sleep in every night; grateful for the peaceful night without neighbours banging on the wall; grateful for the maids who come to clean up everyday, grateful for the close proximity to the beach, the shops and everything I ever need at the moment…

Note to self: Be grateful. And always remember to celebrate the little pleasures in life.

Learnt to value and manage my time properly

Life has taught me many lessons. One of the most important lessons I’ve finally learnt is that we should never waste our time. It’s shocking to realise now how I’ve wasted my time so carelessly, and my priority from now onwards is to learn how to utilise my time more wisely.

Maintain a good body posture.

I realised about two years ago that I need to work on maintaining a good body posture. Unfortunately good habit never sticks that easily, so after a while I started to let myself go again. Probably my dad’s advice is the most suitable for me: go stand against a wall. 

I guess the trick is to do it every day so that it becomes natural. Stand against wall for 2 minutes – head up, shoulders back… and feel proud!

One week has gone past in may by now. Yup, time keeps marching on relentlessly. That bitch.

health insuranceHealth insurance is one of those things that we really need and can cause a lot of sleepless nights. What if you suddenly fall ill and you’re not covered for private care? This can make life very stressful indeed when you consider the long waiting lists at the hospitals.

And on top of all of this, you have so many different types of plans to choose from. It can feel almost impossible to find the best insurance package that has the right coverage for you and your family.

Why is Health Insurance Important?

The cost of private medical treatment isn’t cheap. Getting good health insurance protects you and your family in case of accidents and emergencies. You may suddenly find that you’re suffering from an unexpected illness or were involved in a car accident. Without insurance, you would either have to rely on the NHS or pay high private medical bills.

If you rely on the NHS, you’re going to have to wait several hours to see a doctor and even then you only spend a short amount of time with them. The waiting lists are long and the public healthcare is at breaking point. Are you really going to get the best and fastest treatment?

Don’t wait until someone does fall sick and are in need of medical care before you buy insurance. Get it now and have the peace of mind.

What are the Different Types of Health Insurance?

There are so many different types of health insurance packages and providers that’s it can be overwhelming. You need to find the one that covers you for what you need.

Different packages give you varying levels of freedom to choose your own healthcare providers and where you can get the treatment. You should also consider the cost and what they cover. It’s also important to see what doctors you can see and the treatment you’re eligible for. The amount of paperwork you have to complete is also another important factor.

The best way to choose the right health insurance for you is to compare and contrast the different types of packages. You can use Gocompare to see a range of insurance quotes that suit your needs and budget.

How to Choose the Best Health Insurance for Your Needs:

You need to consider what each package covers. Don’t buy a one that doesn’t allow you to use it at a clinic near you or won’t cover you for something that you need. It sounds obvious but some people are blinded by the cost of things.

This brings me nicely onto my next point.

Have a budget in mind before you search to help give you focus on what you’re looking for. Don’t automatically search for the cheapest if it doesn’t cover you for everything.

Private medical insurance is becoming more popular in the UK as the NHS is overflowing with patients. If something happens to you or your family, you want to make sure that you have the fastest and highest quality of medical treatment possible. This is why private insurance is important. Just make sure you do your homework first.

 

 

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We all have a book (or books) that we have read multiple times. Some people reading this will find the concept of rereading odd, which makes sense on a logical level. Why would you reread something when there are so many new, exciting books to discover? The world is full of book recommendations, classics to sink your teeth into, choices from great lists that just demand to be read – so why do we keep going back to well-thumbed tomes?

Reason 1: Rereading Is Comforting

When we read a book for the first time, we don’t know it. Even if we have read something by the same author, there’s still a chance we won’t like the book, or it will have a twist that we don’t enjoy. There’s an element of trepidation at every page turn, right down to worrying about the fates of our favourite characters. With a great book, it’s a great experience – but it’s also a little bit scary.

We don’t have that sense of nervousness about the plot devolving or a beloved character meeting an untimely demise when we reread. We know how the story goes and what we need to prepare ourselves for. There’s no surprises and sometimes in life, you just want something comforting and predictable.

Reason 2: It’s Easier

There’s no doubt that reading takes some brain power. You have to summon up the energy to let the words on the page form pictures in your mind, think about plotlines, try and anticipate what’s going to happen next.

That doesn’t happen when we reread. You can almost do it on autopilot, enjoying the story but not really having to involve ourselves with it. We can read a “who dunnit” or see characters speculate about the motivations of someone, all safe in the knowledge that we already know the answer.

If this is the primary reason that you reread, it is worth trying out something from those “top 10” lists once in awhile. Reading should be pleasurable, but it should also test you on occasion – maybe try one new book for every three that you allow yourself to reread? After all, you’re going to need something new to reread eventually!

Reason 3: We Struggle To Find What We Like

If you only have an interest in a very narrow genre, then there might be a limited supply of stories available to you. In this case, why not try something in a genre you would normally go out of your way to avoid? See what’s recommended by fans of that genre and dive right in – you might be surprised at how much you like it.

 

Lake Tahoe is a large freshwater lake that sits in the mountains along the border of California and Nevada. You can come here in the summer to relax and enjoy the views. And it transforms into a popular skiing destination during the winter. Whatever time of the year you come, take advantage of some of the Lake Tahoe vacation rentals.

This is a perfect place to come and escape the stress of daily life in the big city. Most people have an amazing experience at the lake and want to return. Here are eight essential travel tips for Lake Tahoe to make sure you’re one of those who falls in love with the location.

1# One’s Peaceful, the Other’s Active:

The Californian side of Lake Tahoe tends to be relaxing and peaceful. It’s popular with hikers and people who just want to have a quiet few days to recuperate. The Nevada side, on the other hand, is very different. You’ll find lots of casinos and the 24/7 lifestyle. Something is always happening here. A great travel tip is to split your time and experience both the Californian and Nevada sides of the lake.

2# Explore Some of the Towns around the Lake:

There are lots of small and charming towns along both sides of the lake. Truckee has a particular historical charm – it was once an old railway town and retains a lot of the character. You can see this in the architecture and general ambience on the place. A great tip is to rent a car and spend a day or two exploring some of the more off the beaten track towns.

3# Take Advantage of the Water Sports:

The summer months are perfect for water sports. It’s sunny three out of four days at Lake Tahoe making it a great place to enjoy the water. Activities include boating, kayaking, and jet skiing.

4# Visit in the Winter for Snowboarding and Skiing:

The lake is also popular during the winter with snowboarders and skiers. Large amounts of snowfall over the mountains and make it an ideal retreat. You can also relax at one of the many ski resorts to enjoy the alpine serenity.

5# Go on a Picnic:

Lake Tahoe is surrounded by beautiful scenery and mountains. There are lots of nice places to go and enjoy a picnic with a loved one. I like to hike up to a quiet spot and enjoy a romantic glass of wine and lunch with my special someone. Or you can just head down to the side of the lake. The best things in life are free!

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If you do go hiking and plan to go for a picnic, it’s worth mentioning that there are bears in the mountains. Most of the time they’re harmless and have been living around humans for centuries. But, it can be scary the first time you see one, especially if you have food with you. The best thing to do is make a lot of noise or bang two metal objects together to scare them away.

6# Go Fishing:

The lake is full of fish and it’s a popular activity with locals and tourists. You can enjoy the glorious scenery and pleasant weather with a cold beer or two whilst fishing. This is a great way to recuperate from the daily stress of life.

7# Snow, Snow, Snow:

Snow does fall. It can come in large amounts or be completely unexpected. You should always prepare in case you find yourself trapped. The lake is usually fine from April to November. However, it’s not impossible for snow to fall in May or even June. For this reason, make sure you have shovels and a snow chain, just in case. If you don’t have any, ask the locals where you can buy some.

The mountains get a lot of snow in late fall and during the winter. Blizzards are rare but do happen occasionally. When they do, it’s often very intense and there may be power outages. Just keep this in mind if you’re visiting during the winter.

8# Don’t Rely on Cabs:

This is an important tip for people for international tourists. It’s hard to find a cab around the lake and mountains, which means you may have a few difficulties getting around. The bus also has a limited service.

If you do want to explore some of the towns and get around the lake, the best option is to rent a car. This gives you more flexibility and will probably work out to be cheaper than using cabs anyway.

Lake Tahoe is a great place to visit at any time of the year. Make the most of your trip and explore some of the smaller towns around the lake. Just don’t rely on the bus or cabs to take you around. Follow these tips and you’re sure to have a great vacation!

When it comes to hobbies, travelling is right up there as one of the best. Nothing else gives you the feeling of being free to explore, to see things and experience excitement that you otherwise would never have had the chance to do. When you catch the travel bug, bitten hard with the wanderlust, you’ll probably never shake it. You’re always wondering where you go next and what new delights will be waiting for you.

travel planningThe only problem with travel as a hobby is that it could be expensive. The golfer can always go and try out a new set of golf balls for a relatively low cost; the scrapbooking fan can buy a few cheap sheets of paper for a new design – but the same inexpensive thrill is much harder for the travelling fanatic to find.

Management of funds, therefore, is of an utmost priority – and that means there’s a few issues you need to battle through. Picking your priorities means you’ll be able to manage your budget so much better, both before you leave, and while you’re away.

So, to battle!

Battle One: Save Money or Earn More?

This is a classic for pretty much all financial management, but it applies to your travelling funds in a major way. There’s no doubt that there is a relationship between the quality and frequency of your holidays and the amount of money you have to spend, so let’s talk budget.

Do you want to save money by cutting back on your expenses and your purchasing habits? Or do you want to keep your spending habits as they are, but try and bring in more money? (The real superstars will manage to do both, but for the majority of us, that’s not so feasible!)

Both tactics have their advantages. If you decide to cut back, then you’ll live a simpler life in exchange for a wonderful time when abroad. This can be a sacrifice that’s worth making, as you tell yourself that the good times will come while standing in the rain for the bus to work.

beach-holidayWith making more money, then you have the chance to keep your lifestyle as it is, and bring in a little extra for special trips.

If you want to cut back, make a list of all of your expenses and see which ones you can remove. Be as stringent as you can, cutting back all but the essential services. Set yourself a stringent personal budget and stick to it, putting all excess funds into your holiday account. 

If you want to make more money, then your first stop is to see if you can make more in your existing employment – take on more and get a promotion or work for another company that will value & pay you more.. If there’s no possible, you could try a second job, or look at online methods from CredifulThere are many ways to make more income online. Some people sell products (physical or digital) and services online for profits.

Battle Two: Convenient or Cheap?

When it comes to making decisions about where you’re going to go and what you’re going to do, you will come up against this battle continually. We all love convenience, especially if we only have a short amount of time to spend on each holiday. So it’s tempting to take the fast train, book the flight, do whatever it takes to see what we want to see.

The problem comes with the cost of that convenience. This can have a real impact on your finances, to the point it could be the difference between whether a trip is financially viable or not.

A good solution is to base this one on how keen you are to get away. If you’re desperate just to get your feet on foreign soil, then put up with the inconveniences. You could fly to a less popular airport, rely on buses rather than hiring a car – but you’ll be where you want to be.

If you would rather wait and allow more convenience, then wait until it makes sense for you financially. Of course, be money savvy with the process. Research how to get deals, look for discount codes on the conveniences you can’t do without, and look for cashback on any purchase you make. Just because you are choosing convenience doesn’t mean it has to be incredibly expensive – you can still cost-control it to suit your budget.

Battle Three: Experiences or Souvenirs?

travel experienceSo you made the most of your money and now you’re on a trip. Hopefully you’ve saved some spending money – but of course, there’s no limitless pot for you to dip into.

You will then be faced with a choice of what to do with that money. While the options may seem endless, they can be split down into two categories:

  • Experiences would be using the money for day trips, nights out, meals at local restaurants. Things that you do, rather than things you possess.
  • Souvenirs is exactly that, trinkets that you buy abroad and bring back into your life. This will include gifts for family and friends.

While on the surface this might seem like an easy win – what devout traveller wouldn’t outright pick experiences?! – it’s actually trickier than it sounds. Souvenirs might not have the same memory-making experience, but they can be a trigger for memories. Think of all the times in life you have stumbled across a trinket from another time in your life, and it’s made you smile. Souvenirs are important.

Try and split your holiday money, with an allocation for each category. It could be 70% experiences; 30% souvenirs. This is a good split, as if you’re spending too much on souvenirs then it can feel like you’re just on a very expensive shopping trip!

Do this split and obey it from day one of your trip – you don’t want to splurge on a huge day trip and then realise you don’t have the money left to treat yourself to a souvenir or two.

With the battles concluded and your decisions made, all that’s left now is to enjoy yourself and your travels!

 

Pack like a pro

It’s All in the Layers

This time of year is all about the layers. Layers are king as they mean multiple outfit options whilst also allowing you to pile them up if the weather is chillier than expected. Therefore if you pack a couple of vests, light long sleeved tops, cotton cardigans and one lightweight sweater you are pretty much sorted for every potential weather variation. You call peel off and pile on according to the changing temperatures around you.

Footwear Essentials

Depending on the type of weekend break you’re going on, think carefully about the type of footwear you’ll need. City or sightseeing holidays, think comfortable yet chic pumps or ankle boots. Trekking or action weekends obviously require the appropriate footwear, however you must also think about adding another pair for evening meals if you want to glam it up in the evenings. Beach holidays are a breeze as sandals barely take up any room, so you can feel free to pack a couple of pairs, one pair of flats for the day and one pair of heels or wedges for a spot of evening sophistication.

Top Layers

So deciding on the jackets that you want to take, think about a jacket that is the most versatile. A leather jacket pretty much goes with everything and offers warmth if the weather dips for an afternoon. So think of jackets that will go with your casual daytime outfits whilst also being suitable to go well with any evening outfits you have planned.

Core Items

Think about your staple, core items for Saturday and Sunday. Summer dresses are fantastic for packing as they take up very little room. A pair of jeans is a must-have for spring (Autumn) get-aways to cover us up for chilly evenings. And think about one special night time outfit if you’re keen to get glammed up one evening on your trip away.

Don’t Forget the Forgettable

There are then the items that we always tend to forget. You know the kind, phone and laptop chargers, toothpaste and deodorant, plasters if you’re taking new shoes. You know the ones we’re talking about. So run through your weekend and what you’re going to be doing and visualise all the essential items you are going to need to make sure your weekend runs smoothly so all you need to focus on is enjoying some well-earned R&R.

 

The art of sabotage is a powerful talent that requires many years of practice to really get good at. The unfortunate reality is that most great saboteurs use their powers primarily against themselves. The habit of tripping ourselves up is formed through a lifetime, but it doesn’t take a lifetime to get over. Developing the replacement habit of practicing mindfulness is a great way to retake control of not just your life but your own mind.

Accepting ourselves

This might seem like one of the most difficult accomplishments, but it can actually be achieved without too much effort. Accepting your failures is important, but accepting your successes is something that many people who fight with anxiety and depression tend to have difficulty with. You have to give yourself some time to unreservedly feel the emotional kick of a failure and to express it. But then you have to put it behind you. Talk about the actions that led to a failure and actionable methods of changing them. You have to not let your failures become your identity. You didn’t fail because you are you. So, find out the truth of why you failed. With success, on the other hand, you need to recognize and make a habit of what got you there. Patting yourself on the back is important, so don’t forget to do it.

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Gaining perspective

Many of us tend to spend a little too much time stuck in our own head. Gaining perspective is crucial to understanding the reality of a situation, not just what your fertile imagination makes of it. For instance, if you’re having trouble with personal relationships and see how to explore the idea of how your actions impact another without your own bias. Learning to be kind to others can teach us a lot about being kinder to ourselves, too. At the same time, sometimes you might be crowded by troubles you just can’t seem to get away from. Practices like meditation or a journal allow you to review a problem without being in the thick of it emotionally. They give you a layer of distance that can help you accept the reality of a situation or find a solution that you might have otherwise missed.

keep readingI’ve been making conscious effort to develop good habits and stick to them lately and reading books everyday is one of those habits that I’d hope to stick to.

Looking around the house and in my e-reader, there are so many books that I just started reading but quit within the first 50 pages. With my reinforced determination, things are getting slowly better now. Adding to the list of finished books from last time, I finished reading Gone With The Wind and One Hundred Years of Solitude in the past month. So up till now this year, I’ve finished and throughly enjoyed these books:

War and Peace

For Whom The Bell Tolls

Tender Is The Night

1984

Gone with the Wind

One Hundred Years of Solitude

Obviously I’m a slow reader but that’ll improve with time too! Right now I’m reading Catch 22, a book I started many times but never managed to go beyond 30 pages. It’s a very old paperback, the pages are now falling apart after all these years but this time I’ll finish reading it within a month:). Keep reading – that’s a promise.

 

How beautiful can Autumn be? And how good is the country life?

Though there’s no Autumn foliage in Sydney, every year we’d drive a few hours out of the city just to enjoy the extra fresh air, the endless country charm and breathtaking Autumn colours.
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I sat on the grass staring up at the bright yellow leaves and pure blue sky, feeling my heart bursting with joy. Oh how I love these Autumn colours. Could the sky be any bluer? Could this magical moment last longer? It was just perfect.

That blue sky is unreal. Oh how I love these Autumn colors🍁🌞 #bluesky #daytrip #autumn

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